Winning the war with shyness takes practice, but is definitely worth the effort as the result is increased confidence and self-esteem. Wake up feeling good about yourself, able to face the world with confidence and security and knowing that there is no feeling of shame can come in your way to achieve your desires.
There are hundreds of books written on the subject of how beat shyness and gain confidence, but there are some techniques that anyone can practice. Here are 6 techniques advice on how to overcome your shyness:
1. every morning, as soon as you wake up, get in front of the mirror and say loudly "I feel great! I feel great! I feel great!" Repeat this affirmation with enthusiasm at least ten times everyday until it's embedded into your subconscious mind. If you feel a little self conscious to begin with lock yourself in the bathroom. The results will amaze you.
2. feel good about yourself. Looking for the best. Play dress up more often. It gives you an extra feeling of confidence and self-esteem. On its own just knowing that you look good will boost your confidence and reinforce with others that there are things about you that is worth getting to know.
3. take risks at least once a day. It was very refreshing and conquering fears by taking risks helps you grow in confidence and self esteem. Start with small risks and fears and as you overcome them move things bigger. There is nothing you can not do. Be confident in knowing that change can only help you grow and improve your confidence.
4. when you engage in a conversation for one, or with a larger group of people, letting them know that you're embarrassed. This prevents them from you and they are based far more likely to invite you into the conversation, rather than leave you just listen and hope that you can contribute.
Many people, including, I found it difficult to follow a conversation in a noisy place. If you are having trouble to say so and move so that you can hear. People appreciate honesty, and vulnerability and you will attract people who are more honest in your life as a result.
5. The rejection is a fact of life that everyone experiences. Very rarely you that is rejected. If you will be rejected, for example, if you ask someone for a date, remember that everyone has different likes and dislikes. You may be interested in one kind of people and not others. The same goes for other people and you may just not their type. That does not humiliate you in any way. Accept this and know that you will get over it. Never took it personally, and keep in mind that if people reject you it is because of their likes and dislikes and not because of who you are. You also have the right to reject others because of your likes and dislikes.
6. engage in activities that make you feel happy and good about yourself or start a hobby that gives you a feeling of relaxation. This could be anything from gardening to Tai Chi to Karate. Take some lessons, learning or mastering a musical instrument or take singing lessons. Doing something that excites you and take risks. Exploring things that make you feel happy to be a great antidote to shame.
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